Let me guess.
You’ve said it before, maybe out loud, maybe only in your head:
I don’t know what I’m doing.
I don’t belong here.
What if I mess it up?
I know, because I’ve heard it a thousand times. People used to walk into my shop, eyes wide, shoulders tight, and whisper—almost like it was a confession—“I don’t know what I’m doing here.”
As if there was some secret exam, some invisible gatekeeper, and they were about to be found out.
But here’s the truth nobody told them—and maybe nobody’s told you either:
Resilience doesn’t mean perfect.
Resilience means you showed up.
It means you’re standing in a place you don’t fully understand and choosing curiosity anyway.
It means you’re carrying fear and self-doubt and still deciding, I’m here, and I want to try.
The Myth of “Perfect”
Somewhere along the way, we were sold a lie.
That to be resilient means to be flawless. To bounce back without a scratch. To keep smiling while the world crumbles.
But that’s not resilience—that’s performance.
True resilience is messy. It’s crying on the bathroom floor and still getting up to wash your face. It’s steeping your tea too strong and drinking it anyway, because you’re learning. It’s lighting a candle with trembling hands because you need a moment of peace more than you need perfection.
Perfection isolates. Resilience connects.
Perfection says, You’re not enough.
Resilience whispers, Come as you are.
To the One Who Feels Lost
This is for you—the one who secretly wonders if you’re doing it wrong. The one who scrolls through pretty pictures of rituals online and thinks, Mine will never look like that. The one who wants to feel grounded, soothed, whole—but is terrified of messing up.
Listen to me: you cannot get this wrong.
You can over-steep the tea. You can forget the words to the spell. You can light the candle and have your cat knock it over (true story). None of it means you’ve failed.
It means you’re alive. It means you’re learning. It means you’re resilient.
Three Imperfect Practices That Still Count (More Than You Think)
These are not “Instagram worthy.” They’re not polished or perfect. But they will meet you where you are, and that’s all that matters.
🌿 1. The Tea That Holds You
Take one herb—just one. Chamomile. Mint. Tulsi. Whatever you’ve got. Toss it in a mug, pour hot water, and breathe while it steeps. Don’t fuss over timers. Don’t panic about measurements. Just breathe. And when you sip it, let it remind you: even simple, imperfect things can bring comfort.
🕯️ 2. The Flame That Doesn’t Judge
Light a candle. Any candle. Close your eyes for three breaths. Imagine that flame burning away the static that’s been crowding your head all day. You don’t need the right words, the right tools, the right anything. You only need the willingness to pause.
🛁 3. The Water That Welcomes You Back
Fill a bowl or tub with warm water. Add a handful of herbs or even just a sprinkle of salt. Drop your tired feet in and let the water hold you. It doesn’t need to look like a spa ad. It just needs to be yours.
The Real Secret
Resilience isn’t about having it all figured out.
It isn’t about never faltering.
It isn’t about waiting until you’re “ready.”
Resilience is the decision to begin—imperfectly, awkwardly, clumsily—and trust that the act of beginning is enough.
So if you’ve been waiting for permission, this is it.
Brew the tea. Light the candle. Soak your feet.
Not because you’re perfect.
But because you’re human.
And human is more than enough.
💚
Karen
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